Compassionate Correction

Posted on

Matthew 18

15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

Is there anything more painful than a damaged relationship with someone whom you love or someone who you believe loves you?  Proverbs speaks of the grief a mother has when her child is against her.  In this teaching, Jesus gave instructions for compassionate correction and full restoration.   For some reason we prefer to talk about a problem situation than to go to the person who hurt us and carefully lovingly tell them what they have done to hurt us.  There is no benefit of talking to someone else outside of the situation unless that person is going to point you back to reconciliation.

Yes, we can hurt each other; sometimes our hurts are unintended, that is, we don’t know we have hurt each other.  How wonderful it is to know that the injured relationship wasn’t intentionally damaged.  The only way to know that the hurt wasn’t intended is to talk to the person who hurt you.  The person apologizes and you talk about how what they did hurt you.

When the offence is intended the plan from Christ for reconciliation is the same: go and speak to the person and see if they can humbly work with you through the offense.  The first thing we are instructed to do is to talk to the one who hurt us.  Ok, we should pray first, but then set up a time to humbly meet and lovingly resolve the situation.

What would families and churches be like if all of us in the family were committed to Christ’s teaching on this subject?  How much more peace we would have, how much closer our relationships would be, and how much less gossip there would be. Let us commit to compassionate correction every time we are hurt or hurt someone else.


Jared seems to be past the frustration of last month.  When he got home from school yesterday the report was that it was probably the “best day he has ever had.”  The afternoon and evening with him were just as delightful.  Thank you for your prayers for our Jared.  He will have issues with seizures, medications, and frustrations for the rest of his life.  One of the songs he woke up with this morning had the phrase “Jesus Christ is Lord” in it.  We got out of the car and the first thing he said to one of the teachers at Waubonsie was “Jesus Christ is Lord.”  She smiled and repeated it back to him.  We all could learn something from Jared.

 Be sure to gather tonight for prayer and Bible study.  There will be kids club but no youth group at our building.  Our teens met with the teens from One Way Church two weeks ago and are going down to the same house tonight to meet with them. If you need the address and the family’s name, text me and I will send them to you.

Have a great day in the Lord,


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s