Stolen pleasures are deadly

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Proverbs 9

13   A foolish woman is clamorous;

She is simple, and knows nothing.

14   For she sits at the door of her house,

On a seat by the highest places of the city,

15   To call to those who pass by,

Who go straight on their way:

16   “Whoever is simple, let him turn in here”;

And as for him who lacks understanding, she says to him,

17   “Stolen water is sweet,

And bread eaten in secret is pleasant.”

18   But he does not know that the dead are there,

That her guests are in the depths of hell.


In light of today’s emphasis on open sexuality, the normalization of sleeping together, the weakening of the marriage promise of faithfulness, and the willingness of men and women to pervert their minds sexually, this passage of wisdom literature needs to be given close attention. Let’s skip discussing veses 13-16, they speak for themselves, and let’s focus on vs 17-18.

What is it about “stealing a kiss” or “a secret affair” that excites the senses? Going back 3,000 years Solomon describes the offer of “bread eaten in secret” as being “pleasant.” There is something within our sinful nature that always likes to get away with something. As a young teenager I would look for ways to steal little things from the store or from someone’s house. When I succeeded there was a sense of devious accomplishment. From secretly watching pornography to having a secret relationship, the devious side of us understands that “bread eaten in secret is pleasant.”

However, this devious satisfaction going to be short lived. For the moment this devious pleasure is discovered we know shame and embarrassment for getting caught. Solomon went a step further teaching us that when we succumb to this devious pleasure we are setting our lives and our souls up for the destruction of death and of hell. Those who live in devious immorality, and all immorality at all levels is devious, are setting themselves up for the death of relationships and for eternal separation from God himself.

Let us not be simple in understanding. Let us be fully aware that secret sexual pleasures do not lead to strong trusting relationships but just the opposite, they lead to death at several levels. When we are confronted to eat stolen bread in secret places, let us remember the words of wisdom that this stolen bread will turn to poison in our stomachs and bring ruin that we cannot overcome. Yes, God created us sexual beings, and yes, God provided a holy place, marriage, for these desires to be righteously fulfilled. But know this, any sexual activity outside of marriage will not end well for it is not God’s design.


Yesterday we had a visiting music team lead us in our music worship. Pak Asido and his friends did a wonderful job of bringing us into their music and lifting up our Lord together. We are going through 1 John and yesterday we looked at chapter 3 verses 2-3 how that when we see Christ we will be like Him for we will see Him as He is; we are to therefore purify ourselves just as He is pure. This is a very practical message for our time. If you missed it you can find it at


For those in Jakarta, I asked yesterday if anyone had an adult bicycle or tennis racquets that I could borrow for two weeks. If you do, please let me know. As I mentioned, my son Justin, his wife Katelyn, and their four boys are coming in tomorrow to be with us for ten days. We are looking forward to this time with them, but not nearly as much as the boys are looking forward to coming to Indonesia.


Have a great day in the Lord,


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