Reacting and responding in love when hurt

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Proverbs 17

9 He who covers a transgression seeks love,

But he who repeats a matter separates friends.

Someone you love has just hurt you. You do not know why they hurt you, but they did. The more you think about it the more it bothers you. You are coming up to an intersection of actions; either you will forgive the person out of love for them, or you will talk about what they did with someone else.

The second path, talking about the hurt with someone else, has the ability to get back to the one who hurt you, but not from you. The person you tell might tell someone else who tells someone else and by the time it gets back to the one who hurt you, your relationship is far more damaged than it should have been. The one who hurt you now wonders why you did not come to them and now has hurts because of your action of repeating the matter.

The first path, in love covering up the hurt and seeking the right time to go back to the loved on who hurt you, is more difficult, for it causes you to have to face a conflict. But the result is the restoration of you and the one you love. In loving relationships, things are said and done that cause hurts. I have come to realize that when I am hurt, the one who hurts me often has no idea that I have been hurt. What they said or what they did wasn’t intentional, it just happened that way. To go back in love and to explain that you have been hurt can make the relationship stronger for now you both know the hurt and will try to avoid it in the future.

To love others more than self will drive us to the right reactions when we are hurt. In love, turn back to the one you love before you go and tell the story to someone else.


Yesterday at JIBC was such a wonderful day of God’s presence. The young people from Elsafon school for the blind were amazing testimonies of God’s grace and power. They played piano, saxophone, and sang with such love and power that we were blessed far beyond our expectations. They stayed and had lunch with us at the church and we were able to visit with them a bit more. We all realized that if they, though blind, can serve the Lord with such joy and power, then we have little, to no excuse. Thank you Elsafon youth for showing us Christ. You can find them on Facebook at yayasanelsafan.

 We are serving the Lord this week with His promised presence in all that we do. Today, one of our church ladies is ministering to a young woman who is pregnant while in college. She goes with the presence of Christ enabling her. Pray for this young woman who needs Jesus and wisdom in caring for the child in her womb.

Have a great day in the Lord,



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