Taking the wind out of a quarrel

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Proverbs 17

14 The beginning of strife is like releasing water;

Therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts.

When is it easier to clean the floor, before or after the water has stopped coming from the broken pipe? When is the better time to fix a leak, when it is just dripping or when the pipe has burst? Since we know the obvious answer to these questions, we should also understand this proverb.

We all know when contentious words are said, they are usually followed by, “Why would you say that?” or “Do you really mean that?” These reactions are the moment to remember this proverb. Before another contentious word is said and a quarrel begins, stop the hurtful words; yes, just stop them. Just like repairing a leaky pipe before it breaks, stop the contentious words before they turn into a quarrel.

Proverbs 15:1 says that a soft answer turns away anger. Whenever we respond to contention with soft words of kindness and humility the angry moment blows away. While the other person is getting ready for a full-fledged fight, gentle and humble words take the wind out of their quarrelsome sails and they have no where to go. Since we are to keep all corrupting words from coming out of our mouths and we are to use our mouths for edification to the glory of God, stopping a contention before it gets into a quarrel is what our Father God would want us to do.

So, the next time we are drawn into a quarrel, let’s see if we can pause, look to heaven for the right words, and bring a stop to the contention of the moment to the glory of God.


We all got to talk to my parents last night, they are doing quite well at this time and we are thankful. There is one area that they need prayers for, and that is their ability to sleep through the night. Since they are staying with my sister, she hears them every time they get up and she is not sleeping well either. Ask the Lord to remedy this situation for my parents and for my sister, Dawn.

Victory Academy, the boys home and school that we started and worked with, is in need of a single man to work with them for this school year. The RA position is vital to the work with the boys. Since no one has agreed to this position, the school has had to postpone their opening. There were seven parents ready to send their sons to the program and now are having to seek other options or wait. Pastor Mark and Lynne and the staff are praying and seeking God’s provision. We all know that this is in God’s hands and are trusting Him for the right person. If you know any young men who could take a year to work at Victory Academy, please let me know or contact Pastor Mark directly at mm@vafb.org or call at 715-759-5976.

 Have a great day in the Lord,


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