25 A foolish son is a grief to his father,
And bitterness to her who bore him.
During our years at Victory Homes, we saw many grieving and bitter parents. The rebellion of their own sons brought them great and continual pain. The word ‘grief’ in this proverb is the same grief that one has when a loved one dies. The difference is that the grief of death gets weaker over time while the grief of a rebellious son or daughter is a grief that does not go away. A mother suffers with bitterness of soul wondering why God let her give birth to a child who would despise her instruction. I have come to understand that a rebellious child is one of life’s greatest pains.
As we think about this today, I would like to draw us to greater prayer for all of our children. The enemies of this life, the world, the flesh, and all of the powers of darkness, want our children. The world calls out to their flesh nearly every waking hour. They are being called to accept all types of evil as normal, they are being called to fleshly experiments that can make the flesh feel good for a while, and they are being called to do all of this to the rejection of the truth that they have learned and seen in church and at home. Yes, our children need our parenting and yes, they really need our prayers as they are in a daily spiritual battle for their very souls.
All to often we try to logically talk to our children in hopes that we can convince them to do the right things with the right friends. May I suggest that we talk less and that we pray more. I learned early on that parental control is an illusion. My children had wills and plans of their own as they grew up. While I could be an influence, I was not in control of them. In prayer, we ask God to be in control of our children praying that they will listen to Him. We pray that the Word of God that they know will be a lamp to their feet and a light to their path. We pray that the temptations they give in to will not satisfy and will not lead them astray. We pray that the sins they give in to will not leave life-long scars. We pray that the truth of God will be the truth that they seek and the voice that they listen to.
We love our children differently than anyone else does for we birthed them, cared for them, fed them, educated them, took them on vacations, invested in their skills, and have prayed for them since birth. We are more invested in them than anyone else can be. We must continue protecting them in prayer for them. We pray because God calls us to. We pray because God loves them more than we do. We pray because we love them and want God’s best, not our best, for them. We pray for their eternal salvation which we know is God’s desire for them. 2 Peter 3:9 God is not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. You may be a grieving or bitter parent today; never stop praying for your child(ren) to hear and to surrender to the voice of God Almighty, their eternal Father who is mighty to save.
Shawn Alexander Jr and his wife gave birth to Stratford Emmanual Alexander. Little “Strad” will have surgery this week to repair his aortic valve and to seek to bring his heart to normal. Strad is healthy in all other areas. We continue to pray for God to bring His healing hand to Strad’s little body.
Have a great day in the Lord,