Honorable people stop a quarrel

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Proverbs 20:3 (NKJV)

3 It is honorable for a man to stop striving,

Since any fool can start a quarrel.

Proverbs 20:3 (NIV)

It is to one’s honor to avoid strife,

but every fool is quick to quarrel.

Why is it that strife and quarrels can come up so quickly? I can be having a great day and a quarrel comes out of nowhere. I did not ask for it, I did not do anything wrong, yet BAM, here comes a quarrel. Now, I wish I could tell you that I always react honorably and avoid strife thus stopping the quarrel; unfortunately, I don’t want to be in the wrong and trying to justify myself thus prolongs the quarrel.

Can we act honorably in those moments? Can we avoid the strife and avoid the quarrel? Apparently we can because that is what Solomon is telling us is honorable. When a ship loses the wind that fills its sails it stops moving, when we act in honor and with wisdom, we can take the wind out of the sails of the quarrel and watch it come to a stop.

The next time a quarrel begins, words are said that make you want to defend yourself, look to God for wisdom, ask Him for the soft answers that turn away anger, use His words, be humble, and watch the quarrel come to a quick end. It takes two to tango, as the saying goes, and it takes two to argue. When one refuses to dance there is no dance, and when one refuses to quarrel, there is no quarrel.


In our time here we have met different store employees. Last night, two Informa employees came to dinner and brought a husband and a boyfriend. It was delightful evening as we ate, played some games, watched some of Jared’s favorite music, looked at pictures, and got to know each other. The young ladies spoke a little English and the men not any. It always makes for a fun time of trying to understand each other. Keep praying with us for open hearts and lives.

 November 9th at JIBC we are hosting a night of praise and worship. We are starting at 6:00pm and will be singing, reading Scripture and singing some more. If you play an instrument and would like to join the musicians, please bring it. If you have favorite songs, we will give opportunity for the audience to chose songs to sing. This is an open service so people from other churches are invited to come and sing praise to God with us. The gospel will be given throughout the service.

Have a great day in the Lord,


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